Over the last five and a half years of running Infinite Devotion as a full-time business, I've witnessed something that deeply concerns me: how much the BDSM community lives in the shadows. There's a pervasive assumption that this is just the way it has to be, that shame and secrecy are inevitable...

There's a question I hear from men constantly. It sounds like frustration. It sounds like confusion. It sounds like exhaustion.

"Why won't she just let go?"

She says she wants to. She might even beg you to lead. She craves the feeling of surrender, of submission, of finally being able to relax ...

Devotion is one of those words that gets tossed around until it loses its teeth. People use it to mean discipline, loyalty, passion, even obligation. From the outside those things can look a lot like devotion. They can produce results. They can keep a relationship upright for a while. But they are...

Episode 93 of the Dom Sub Devotion Podcast talks about loving D/s relationships, and what it really takes to create and sustain them. This blog post outlines much of that episode, so if you enjoy this read, click below to listen in to the full episode. 

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There’s a common fantasy in the world of Dominance and submission.

It goes something like this: “If the dynamic is strong enough… if the Dominant is consistent, if the submissive is devoted, there shouldn’t be any conflict. No disagreement. No friction.”

But here’s the truth:

Disagreemen...

There’s a moment I’ve seen play out a thousand times: a woman, aching to be led, finally encounters a man who begins to step forward with real Dominance. Not bravado. Not control. Not coercion. But grounded, erotic, present masculine leadership.

And in that moment when her deepest craving is bein...

“Letting go isn’t a process. It’s not a strategy. It’s not something you achieve over time. Letting go is the moment you stop holding on.” 

In Episode 89 of the Dom Sub Devotion Podcast, I sat down with Sven Loss for one of the most piercing and clarifying conversations I’ve had in a long tim...

A lot of men reach out to me with the same story.

“She says she wants to submit… but she keeps resisting.”

“She used to be soft and obedient… now she questions everything I do.”

“She gets bratty, emotional, controlling… and it’s killing the dynamic.”

And almost every time, they’re lookin...

Most men who come to me want to become better Dominants so they can lead their woman.

What they often don’t realize—at least not at first—is that Dominance isn’t something you do to her.

It’s something you become.

It’s not about protocol, rules, titles, or how well you execute rituals...

In a world obsessed with aesthetics, performance, and intellectual understanding, it’s easy to confuse the image of devotion with the embodiment of it.

We see it all the time.

A woman trying to be submissive—but from her head.

A man trying to be dominant—but from his fear.

Both performi...

At the beginning of this year, Dawn looked at me across the breakfast table and said something that changed everything:

“I’m done.”

There was no drama in it. No collapse. No long explanation.

Just a knowing.

She didn’t mean she was done with us.

She meant she was done trying to bring somethin...

The Identity Death That True Devotion Demands

What happens when the identity you spent years building —

even an identity in service to love, devotion, and the feminine —

becomes the very thing standing between you and the life you were born to live?

That’s the conversation I had with Chr...