Why Submissives Resist - And How To Lead Anyway - Dom Sub Devotion Episode 88

A lot of men reach out to me with the same story.

“She says she wants to submit… but she keeps resisting.”

“She used to be soft and obedient… now she questions everything I do.”

“She gets bratty, emotional, controlling… and it’s killing the dynamic.”

And almost every time, they’re looking for the wrong solution.

They want a tactic. A fix. A way to “get her to stop.”

But here’s the truth:

If she can’t submit to you, it’s not because she’s broken. It’s because you’re not actually dominating her. 

Submission Is Not a Gift You Can Demand

 It’s something you receive—once you’ve become the kind of man whose presence makes surrender inevitable.

You don’t need more rules.

You don’t need to bark louder.

You don’t need her to understand your leadership.

You need to embody it.

Her body isn’t looking for words.

It’s looking for truth. Stillness. Containment.

Something that doesn’t move when she storms.

Her Resistance Is a Mirror—Not a Mistake

When she’s spiraling emotionally, it’s not bad behavior.

It’s feedback. 

When she brats, questions, or pulls away—she’s not defying you.

She’s subconsciously checking: Can you actually hold me? 

Are you calm when I’m not? Solid when I’m spinning? Trustworthy when I collapse? 

And every time you explain yourself, get defensive, over-accommodate, or fall apart—

She gets her answer.

And she takes the lead back.

Dominance Is Not Control. It’s Containment.

If your nervous system is leaking fear, urgency, or neediness—she won’t melt.

She might play the part, but her body will stay guarded.

She can only let go when she feels that you’re not trying to control her behavior—but contain her totality.

That means her sex, her rage, her collapse, her chaos.

She wants to be taken by a man who doesn’t flinch.

You Don’t Earn Her Submission With Words—You Anchor It With Your Life

Real Dominance is a vow.

It’s not a kink.

It’s not a mood.

It’s not a vibe you turn on when you’re horny.

It’s the way you live.

It’s who you are when no one’s watching.

It’s the consistency of your standard, even when she’s emotional, resistant, or wild with desire.

She doesn’t want to understand you.

She wants to feel that your leadership is real—even when she hates it.

So Stop Asking Her to Trust You

And start asking yourself:

Have I submitted to the role of Dominant? 

Have you surrendered to your own standard?

Your own integrity?

Your own vision?

Have you earned the right to receive a woman’s full devotion, because you’ve become the man who can actually hold it?

If not—start there.

Because when you do…

She’ll kneel.

Not because she has to.

Because there’s nowhere else she’d want to be.

Ready to Become That Man?

If you’re done performing and ready to lead—

If you’re ready to shape your relationship, your woman, and your entire life through embodied, erotic, devotional Dominance—

That’s the work I do.

Start here - This week's episode of Dom Sub Devotion goes DEEP into this. Listen or watch here:

https://www.infinitedevotion.com/podcasts/dom-sub-devotion/episodes/2149038820

https://youtu.be/vE4xNe532CI

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The world is starving for men who don’t flinch.