Start Here
If you're new, begin here.
Maybe you love each other and live like roommates. Maybe the bedroom went quiet years ago and you've both gotten very good at not bringing it up. Maybe you've been through enough relationships to wonder whether the problem is you.
We lived a version of that for close to a decade. Two good people who loved each other, running a household beautifully, completely unable to feel each other.
It's possible to have both. Deep intimacy and intense desire can live in the same relationship, with the same person, and keep growing for a lifetime. We refused to settle for less, and everything here is what we found on the way back.
Andrew & Dawn
Where are you starting from?
Each of these is a long read. Give it twenty quiet minutes.
For men
Giving To Receive
You're the one who holds everything together, and somewhere along the way you disappeared inside it. This is where the way back starts.
Then read How I Killed My Inner Nice Guy.
For women
Receiving To Give
You keep everything running, and you're tired in a way sleep doesn't touch. This is about coming back to yourself first.
Then read How She Learned to Control Everything.
For couples
Why the Love and Desire Died
You love each other, the fire has gone quiet, and neither of you knows how to talk about it. Read this one together.
Then read Love and Sex Can Be Easy.
Then listen.
The podcast is where we talk through all of it, every week, with nothing held back. It's the fullest picture of how we see this, and the best way to get to know us.
Also on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube.
Listen to the Podcast
The Book
Infinite Devotion arrives this November.
Join the list and we'll send you a free chapter as soon as it's ready, along with a few emails about how we found our way back. You'll get a quick email to confirm your address.
When you're ready for more
Our story
How two good roommates in a dead bedroom found their way back to each other, and what it cost.
The blog
Every essay, most of them written alongside a podcast episode and going deeper.
Work with Andrew
One-on-one coaching for men, women, and couples, at the root of the patterns.
Found us through our D/s work? Everything from those years lives here.
