D/s Coaching for Individuals and Couples
A dynamic that honors both of your hearts.
You know this is part of who you are. Maybe you've felt it for years and kept it quiet. Maybe you've started exploring and found that the rules, the titles, and the scenes only took you so far. Maybe you're already living a dynamic, and parts of it have started to feel like performance instead of devotion.
Whether you lead or surrender, whether you're partnered or still searching, the longing underneath is the same. You want to be fully met, in body and in heart, by someone you trust completely.
That kind of dynamic is possible. It gets built from the inside out.
Structure needs something to rest on
Most of what's out there teaches D/s as a set of protocols. Rules to follow, rituals to perform, roles to step into. Those can be beautiful. Stacked on top of old wounds, they become one more place to perform.
A dominant who hasn't made peace with their own wanting ends up leading from force, or barely leading at all. A submissive whose body has never felt safe to soften surrenders with the mind while everything underneath stays braced. Couples end up with a dynamic that looks right on paper and feels hollow in the bedroom and the kitchen.
So we start underneath the structure, with the two bodies and the two hearts it's meant to serve.
What we do together
I help you bring D/s into your relationship in a way that honors both of your bodies and both of your hearts.
We go underneath the dynamic to what each of you actually needs. For the one who leads, that's the capacity to hold, to decide, and to want without apology. For the one who surrenders, it's a body that feels safe enough to let go all the way down. We meet the younger parts of you that learned to brace, to please, or to hide, because they're the ones deciding how far you can go.
From there, we get specific about the dynamic you desire and build it from who you each are. Your structure, your rituals, and your agreements get designed to deepen your connection, and they're free to change as you grow.
If you lead
For the dominant who wants to lead from presence, and to hold a dynamic that leaves their partner feeling safer, more wanted, and more free.
If you surrender
For the submissive who longs to let go completely, and wants that surrender to come from a body that finally feels safe.
If you're a couple
For partners who want to build or rebuild a dynamic together, one that honors both of you in the bedroom and in daily life.
On your own right now? We'll work on becoming the leader or the surrendered partner you want to be, so you're ready when the right person arrives, and able to recognize them.
Why I do this work
Dawn and I have lived a conscious power exchange inside our marriage for years. It's where nearly everything I teach was discovered and tested.
It's also where I learned that no structure can carry what the two people inside it haven't tended to. When we went underneath the dynamic and started caring for what each of us actually needed, it came alive in a way no protocol had ever given us.
That's the work I'll walk through with you.
Ways to work with me
Every container includes email support between sessions, so you can bring me what comes up while it's still fresh.
Start here
Single session
$397 路 75 minutes
A first step for you on your own, or for the two of you together. If you join a container within 30 days, the full $397 comes off your investment.
For individuals 路 By application
Three months
$4,200, or three payments of $1,400
Weekly sessions for three months, up to 12, plus email support between sessions. Room to work with a specific pattern or piece of your dynamic and find your footing.
For individuals 路 By application
Six months
$8,000, or six monthly payments
Weekly sessions for six months, up to 24, plus email support between sessions. Time to reach the roots of how you lead or how you surrender, and to live into it as it changes you.
For couples 路 By application
Three months together
$5,000 路 payment plans available
Weekly sessions for three months: 6 individual sessions, three for each of you, and 6 couples sessions. A focused way to get started, or support through one specific challenge. Email support between sessions for both of you.
For couples 路 By application
Six months together
$9,000 路 payment plans available
Weekly sessions for six months: 20 individual sessions, ten for each of you, and 6 couples sessions, one each month. Email support between sessions for both of you.
Partnered, and only one of you is ready? One of you can begin first, and the other can join when they're ready.
How it starts
1
Apply
A short application, so I can understand where you are and the dynamic you're longing for.
2
Talk
A free 20 to 30 minute call to get to know each other and feel out whether we're a good fit. If we're not, I'll tell you, and point you somewhere better if I can.
3
Begin
We set your regular weekly time and start the work.
All coaching is with me, Andrew. Sessions happen over video, wherever you are.
Prefer to start on your own?
D/s courses and free guides
Becoming a Dominant Man, Submissive Foundations, Rapture, and Structuring Your D/s Dynamic are all still available, along with free guides for dominants, submissives, and couples.
Questions
How does scheduling work?
Your coaching runs for a set time frame, three or six months from your first session. When we begin, we'll choose a regular weekly time that fits your life, and that time is held for you every week until we finish.
How does scheduling work for couples?
We'll keep a weekly rhythm, with individual sessions for each of you and a couples session once a month. Since we're working around two schedules, I'll stay flexible about exactly when each one lands, all within your three or six months.
What if something comes up?
Life happens. If you get sick or something comes up, let me know at least 24 hours ahead and I'll do my best to find another time within your three or six months. With less than 24 hours' notice, that week's session is missed.
What if I can't make every week?
The end date stays where it is. Every week you show up for is a session, and a week you can't make doesn't carry forward. You'll get the most from this by protecting that time, and how many sessions you use is up to you.
What if you need to cancel?
If I ever can't hold a session, I'll make it up, and I'll extend your end date if that's what it takes so you don't lose the time.
The dynamic you've been longing for is possible.
Apply, and we'll talk about what it could look like for you.
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