When the Dominant Isn't Actually the Dominant | Infinite Devotion Episode 130
If the Dominant is not the one actually making the decisions, who is really leading your dynamic?
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This was my first live stream on Instagram, and I took it straight to a question that comes up after I teach polarity: when a submissive gives to her Dominant sexually, or he is on his knees in front of her, who is the Dominant in that moment? Positions and labels tell you nothing about who is in charge. The decision is where authority lives, and if I am navigating around her feelings or trying to manage her reactions, she is the one deciding. I also explain how consistent friction, when he is making his best effort, trains a man to anticipate and avoid her reactions until the relationship crumbles.
For the submissives I talk about the fear underneath the need to get your way, and why real submission means stating your limits and then actually letting go. I answer live questions on telling your voice apart from subconscious control, why telling a controlling woman she needs to let go only makes it worse, and what happens when two people try to occupy the masculine at once. I close with how Dawn let go gradually and then suddenly, the long in-between after she put on the collar, the ego deaths she went through, and why the Dominant needs to be the one deciding.
If you hold the title but she is still the one deciding, Becoming a Dominant Man is where I teach you to make real decisions, stand firm through her reactions and lead her out of control. Start it here:
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