How To Introduce D/s Dynamics To Your Partner | Infinite Devotion Episode 128
You want a Dom/sub dynamic and your partner doesn't know it yet. How do you bring it up?
FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
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GO DEEPER: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic, build the structure that makes your deepest desires real
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In 2018 I asked Dawn to be my submissive almost on a whim, and I hadn't prepared for anything after those words left my mouth. In this episode I walk through what I wish I had done first, whether you want to lead or to submit. Get clear on what you're asking for, separate your desire from what you hope it will fix, and know the difference between a fantasy and the life you actually live. Then look honestly at your own history with power, and at how urgent this feels.
For the men, I ask whether you truly want to lead, and whether you have the self-leadership she would be surrendering to. For the women, I ask whether you're trying to escape yourself, whether you trust him to lead, and whether you've been the one in control. Then we get into the conversation itself: timing, sobriety, taking it in pieces, no ultimatums, and handing the lead to the Dominant once it begins. It took Dawn a month to say yes, and I close with the question I never asked myself: what will you do if they say no?
Once the conversation opens, the two of you have to build something real together: what the dynamic means, how far it reaches, and the agreements that make it safe to step into. Structuring Your D/s Dynamic walks you through building yours. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep128&utm_content=notes_bridge
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