9 Lessons from D/s Dynamics That Failed | Infinite Devotion Episode 126
What can we learn from the D/s dynamics that fell apart? I share nine lessons from years of coaching and from our own mistakes.
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Most of the time on this podcast I lean toward what makes these dynamics work. This time I share nine lessons from dynamics I've watched go badly through years of coaching, and some that Dawn and I lived through ourselves. Fear sits underneath all of them: fear of speaking up, of being vulnerable, of losing the relationship, and the compliance and quiet resentment that follow. Please use these to sit down together and find a different path, and never as a weapon against your partner.
We get into why a dynamic can't live in a bubble, why casting your partner in a fantasy role leads to chronic disappointment, and how I pushed Dawn for more until I learned to let go of my timeline. I talk about why D/s exposes a broken foundation, why you can't go back to comfortably numb once you've seen behind the veil, and the damage a Dominant does when he withdraws his leadership after she has started to surrender. The last two lessons are growing together and devotion as a structural requirement: the willingness to stay when all of this shows up.
Most of these failures come down to a dynamic without the structure to hold fear, pacing and real life. Structuring Your D/s Dynamic walks you through building one that's woven into how you actually live together. Start it here:
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