Are you strong enough to be a Dom? Not if you can't handle emotion. | Infinite Devotion Episode 116
Can you be a strong Dominant and still feel everything? I don't think you can be one without it.
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So many men come into dominance believing it requires stoicism: unaffected, unreactive, stone faced. In this solo episode I come back to masculine sensitivity with a lot more experience behind me. Dominance requires solidity with openness, because you can't lead someone you can't feel. When your heart is armored she feels your absence, she can't submit into a void, and her tests are simply asking whether you are really here.
I explain sensitivity as attunement, the way a fine scale reads the smallest change, and why it's half of your masculine polarity. We get into why little boys shut it down to survive, the cruel irony that the thing that got hurt is the thing you need most, and why opening your heart is going to feel weak. I talk about how a closed heart turns D/s into control and even abuse, why you should never apply force to resistance, and what healing your heart actually involves. Then I walk through what it looks like when she comes home upset and you can simply be present with her.
Opening your heart without losing your spine is the core of Becoming a Dominant Man. It's the 12-step path I walked to become a man who can feel everything and stay solid. Start it here:
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