Why won't he just LEAD? | Infinite Devotion Episode 107
Why won't he just lead? This one is for the women, and the answer starts with what's happening inside him.
FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
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GO DEEPER: Living Surrendered, Dawn's workshop on letting go of control
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This is a question I hear from women all the time, especially women who are tired of carrying everything and long for a man who takes charge. I speak to you directly here, as a man who has battled this same resistance in myself. When you ask why he won't lead, you're often telling me you're exhausted from managing everything, including him. Underneath that is a fear of letting go, and his struggle to lead is that same fear turned around.
We get into how boys are trained to be nice instead of powerful, why so many men believe leading will hurt someone, and how people pleasing turns into resentment and shutting down. I talk about the performance phase, when he acts dominant because you asked, and why real leadership is a presence you can feel in his nervous system. And I share what you can do while he learns: turn your focus inward, get curious about him, let him lead his own way, and believe in him.
Your struggle to let go of control and his struggle to lead are the same wound, and the part you can work on is yours. Dawn made Living Surrendered for exactly this. It's her workshop on how she let go of control, with the full Q&A. Watch it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep107&utm_content=notes_bridge
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