The Power of Consistency in a D/s Dynamic | Infinite Devotion Episode 70
Why can't she let go of control? Start with how consistently you lead, and how much you can hold.
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Someone on a live stream asked what trait of mine makes our dynamic work, and I said persistence and consistency. In this episode Dawn and I unpack why. When the direction I lead in stays the same day in and day out, she has something solid to lean into and can stop grasping for control. We compare our first three years of trying things and finding our footing with the last three, when my role became clear: hold the structure so she can be free to be all of who she is.
Then we take on the question we hear all the time: how do I get my submissive to let go of control? Dawn talks about stillness, using her voice inside her submission, and learning that she matters. I talk to Dominant men about the places you've made her shrink because she makes you uncomfortable, and why that trains her to stay in control. When I chose to see all of Dawn's emotions as love, everything changed. She cannot surrender into a void, so get control inside yourself first.
If she can't seem to let go, the work starts with what you can hold. Becoming a Dominant Man is the 12-step path I took to become solid enough for her to surrender to. Start it here:
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