D/s without punishments, overcoming “nice guy” syndrome, and more! | Infinite Devotion Episode 68

Why don't we use punishment in our dynamic, and what does a Dominant do instead when she doesn't follow through?

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Dawn set one firm boundary at the very start of our dynamic: no punishment. In this Q&A she shares why the word feels soul crushing to her, and I explain how punishing a woman who is already hard on herself only reinforces her self-hatred. We get into the difference between correction, discipline and punishment, why her no made me a better leader, and the fear of doing something wrong that surfaced in her body just last week. We separate real punishment from funishment, and invite you to question whether punishment belongs in your own dynamic.

Then we take your questions. How does a submissive communicate without being disrespectful, and why does a Dominant need to stop taking her feelings personally? How do you check in about changing kinks and desires, and what do you do through a season of lower sex drive? We talk about what Fifty Shades and romance novels can't show, and close with the nice guy who's afraid of hurting her when she asks him to spank her, and how he can challenge that belief.

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