Detaching With Love: Breaking free from codependency in Dom/sub dynamics | Infinite Devotion Episode 62

How do you depend on each other completely in a Dom/sub marriage without falling into codependency?

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Dominance and submission get tricky when love is involved, because the codependent patterns we learned as kids slip right into the dynamic. In this episode Dawn and I start with what codependency is, then get honest about how it showed up in us. I share how I used to wait for her validation and approval before stepping into ownership of my own life. Dawn talks about her people pleasing, always looking for an outside authority, and how easily a submissive can feel she can't say no out of fear of losing love.

We look at codependency on the Dominant's side too, when I get so entangled in her experience that I need her to be different so I can feel okay. I explain why losing connection can feel like going from ecstasy to hell, why her unconscious patterns are never personal, and why I had to go first and stop reacting. We share a small moment with our new grill that a couple of years ago could have turned into a day-long meltdown. And I talk about individuality versus independence, and why being fully ourselves is what lets us fully depend on each other.

Depending on each other without losing yourselves is what lets a dynamic keep deepening. Rapture is our flagship course for couples, where Dawn and I teach the trust, intimacy and surrender this kind of union is built on. Start it here:
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