Finding a Dominant, Helping your man be more Dominant, and dealing with abusive Doms | Infinite Devotion Episode 59
How do I get my man to be more dominant, how do I find a Dom, and what do I do when my Dom is mean? Dawn and I answer the three biggest questions submissive women ask us.
FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
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GO DEEPER: Submissive Foundations, how to be a submissive and never lose your self respect
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After two hours of answering questions from submissives, three big ones were left, and so many women asked some version of them that Dawn and I gave them their own episode. First, how do you get your man to be more dominant? The quick answer is you can't, because a submissive can't be the one leading. We talk about surrender beyond preferences, why your first act of submission is expressing what you want to experience and then stepping back to let him lead in his way, and why this is just as hard for a man who was programmed to treat you like a Disney princess.
For single women looking for a Dom, I explain why you can't go looking for a finished product, why you follow the spark even when it has led to toxicity before, and why the character of a man who owns his triggers matters more than whether he calls himself a Dom. Then the hardest one: what to do when your Dom is mean, harsh or lashing out. Real dominance is grounded and calm, and a man who uses your submission to shut you down is running an abusive codependent relationship under the name of power exchange. We talk about using your voice, setting boundaries, and why you need solid personal boundaries to be a submissive.
Speaking up, setting boundaries and submitting without abandoning yourself is the heart of Submissive Foundations. It walks you through the fears submissives face and how to overcome them, so you can submit from a place of self-respect. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep059&utm_content=notes_bridge
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